“Why has the command to “submit to one another” become such a stumbling block to so many? I believe it is because the church has missed the example of Jesus and His servant’s attitude; we have neglected to take in the whole of Scripture and have refused to place our lives square in the middle of the weightier matters of the Word of God. We have ignored the simplicity of life in the covenant of faith and have replaced it with phrases and semantics and man’s principles that reflect a divisive agenda and adversarial assumptions. We have mistakenly regarded submission as a vertical rather than a horizontal action. We have substituted the beauty of an organic, natural one anothering approach, with a legalistic, top down, military chain-of-command list of rules for family life.
“In reality, the true beauty of living a life of genuine, biblical, one anothering is discovered in our submission to one another! When the difficult issues of life come before us, if the spirit of submitting to one another is present, conflicts rarely occur! If the desire to express our love and care for one another takes priority, yielding to each other can become a source of great joy and comfort. You see, submission is not something controlled by someone who requires submission. Rather, it is yielding your personal rights as an expression of love for and commitment to another person. It is done out of a heart of genuine respect, care, and interest in another person, and can never be demanded. Submission is the choice of an individual, is never done out of obligation, always has the best interests of someone else in mind, and does not stand alone in its own category. It combines with all the other one anothers of Scripture to produce a picture of what heaven will certainly be for those who love God. Submitting to one another is merely an instinctive, beautiful dance we do as a couple, as a family, as the body of Christ, choreographed by the grace of God in each of us. from The Joy of Relationship Homeschooling ~ when the one anothers come home